Last year I used Rosetta Thurman’s 10 questions to review 2012, and look forward to 2013. I found it to be a very useful tool in reflecting on the previous year, and think about what I wanted in 2013. While 2013 turned out to be nothing like I expected, I think some themes did manifest. Let’s take a look.
WHAT I WANT TO REMEMBER ABOUT 2013
1. What was the most valuable lesson I learned this year?
I am my own hero. There’s no man on a white horse that will rescue me. My life is my responsibility at all times– not just the small stuff. And while taking responsibility can feel overwhelming at times, the self-confidence, self-efficacy that happens when you do makes it more than worth it. It feels good to rescue yourself. Empowering too.
2. What was the best book, song and/or movie I discovered (or rediscovered) this year?
The best song I discovered was Runnin’ Outta Moonlight by Randy Houser. I had many dark days in 2013, and for some reason this song always made me feel better. It never failed to bring a smile to my face and feel light-hearted. Maybe it reminded of the times love felt like the lyrics describes. I often would sing loudly and off-key while blasting it in the car.
3. What was the best city, state or country I discovered (or rediscovered) this year?
Georgia is my family’s home state, and I returned in March to bury my uncle. While I am not from Georgia myself, there is something that makes it feel like home. Maybe because it is filled with my family. Besides the sadness of all the funerals I attend there, I have no negative memories affiliated with being there. I think I will add that to places I need to go more often.
4. What was the biggest personal milestone I reached this year? (these can be goals you reached in the areas of lifestyle & fun, money & finances, health & wellness, family & friends, love & romance or personal growth & spirituality)
I became a mother in 2013. My pregnancy forced me to dig deep and grow in ways I never knew was possible. Everything changed once I found out I was pregnant. I was so focused on bringing a healthy child into this world that everything else stopped mattering. And then she was born. When I look at her, I feel like my heart will explode with love. You hear it all the time “you don’t know love until you hold your child in your arms.” It is so true.
5. What professional accomplishments (at work or in my business) am I most proud of this year?
I was able to shift the environment I came into which is something I wanted to accomplish this year. My boss, and many others, say that the “feeling” of my department is so much better than it used to be. My staff is happier, and therefore our students are happier as well. I am proud that most feel more welcomed and comfortable coming into our space.
What I Want To Leave Behind As I Enter 2014
1. Which goals did I make the least progress on this year? (these can be goals in the areas of lifestyle & fun, career & work, money & finances, health & wellness, family & friends, love & romance or personal growth & spirituality)
I am leaving 2013 in significantly worse financial situation than I started. It will take me a while to undo the damage, but I plan to leave the beliefs and behaviors that cause the problems in 2013. I am clear on what I need to do. Just need to do it. I am also leaving the year with excess weight. While I can blame the pregnancy, I know that this is only part of the issue.
2. What promises (to myself or others) did I break in 2013?
I failed to trust myself as much as I needed to in 2013. I substituted other people’s opinions, desires, and preferences for my own. I also did not spend more time with my Godson, I barely saw him because I was so caught up in my own life and drama.
3. What opportunities, if any, did I miss out on this year because of fear or procrastination?
I do not believe I missed out on anything this year because of fear or procrastination. This would be the first year that occurred.
4. What did I do in 2013, if anything, that was out of alignment with my values?
I did engage in a little bit of spiteful behavior in 2013. On one occasion I was purposefully inconsiderate to someone in order to hurt/annoy another person. I also complained downward about some of things happening at work.
5. What did I refuse to let go of in 2013?
Anger. Mostly at myself for getting into a situation I knew was not good for me. I am still working on forgiving myself for my recklessness, and betraying my inner voice.
Wow. What a year!! That’s all I can say after thinking about it.
Do you want to do your own review? Download Rosetta’s guide from her site Happy Black Woman.
Love and light,
P.S. I just realized that last part may make it seem like Rosetta somehow sponsored this post. She didn’t. It really is just a real good guide.